Aaaand…we’re back!

As I mentioned earlier, The MoMs, The Green Bean and I took a quick trip down to San Francisco.  Spending time in the Bay Area is always a pleasure, but we also had much business to take care of, namely scoping out neighbourhoods, looking at homes and meeting the locals.

By now, many of you know (and the rest of you have probably guessed) that come June, the family and I will be leaving Ottawa and moving to San Francisco!

Actually, it looks like we’ll be moving to Berkeley, where a slightly less expensive rental market will afford us an extra bedroom for guests. It’s a pretty happening city in its own right and a short BART ride away from its sister across the Bay. We spent the bulk of our time Berkeley this week and the friendly people, bountiful markets and vibrant night life were seductive indeed.

Why the move?

I decided several months ago that I wanted to continue my career as a sexuality educator. To do so, I knew I’d have to further my education. After a lot of research, discussion with colleagues, discussion with mentors and discussion with my family, I decided to I would apply to begin graduate studies in Human Sexuality this fall. The program that best suited my needs was the The Insititute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, located smack dab in the middle of San Francisco.

The family I and briefly considered the distance option, which would have meant travelling from Ottawa to San Francisco for two to three weeks at a time, every four months. It was doable, but the more The MoMs and I thought about it, the more we realized that that much time apart was going to heap a ton of extra stress and work onto both of our shoulders – something that neither of us wanted.

What we wanted was to spend more time with each other and with The Bean. We wanted a break from some of the obligations that have us both a bit bogged down. The MoMs’ brother and his family recently made a big move to Australia. It was a risk leaving their very established life behind, but the fresh start has done them a world of good. The MoMs and I began to wonder if a new beginning might do us good too. Both of us love San Francisco. Nice weather and the opportunity to be outside in sunshine year-round would undoubtedly be good for the Bean. The MoMs could work there. I’d have access to some of the best sexuality resources and experts in the world. The more we thought about it, the more we realized heading out to California was a no-brainer. So we’re going.

The plan as it stands now is to go for a least a year. I have very strong attachments to Ottawa – especially the family of friends I’ve made in the almost fifteen years I’ve lived here. I also see that there’s a real need for sex positive resources in our city. Eventually I’d love to come back and continue working as a sexuality educator here in the capital. We’ll see what life has in store.

So that’s the jam. There’s a triple-long list of to-dos to get done before we pull up stakes. While part of me is champing at the bit to start this new adventure, I know the next few months are going to race by and I know I’m going to miss the shit out of Ottawa once we go. So I will enjoy the time I have left here, while I look forward to a new set of experiences and the chance to cross item number 8 of my 40 Before 40 off the list!


  1. Janet says:

    That’s SO exciting! I’m just a tad jealous. 😉 Best of luck!

  2. Lynn says:

    We sure are going to miss you, but I’m so happy and excited for you and your family. San Fran is a lovely town and you are sure to have a wonderful time there!

  3. deekayelgee says:

    I am so excited. Guest bedroom? You might get a few guests. Having you on this side of the continent is going to be a beautiful thing indeed. I do feel terrible for Ottawa, but as you said, you have ties there. Change can be refreshing. Love you!

    • Nadine says:

      Love you too! And it would be so wrong to be on the same coast and not find some way to see each other. I’ll come to Seattle or you’ll come to SF. Or we’ll split the difference and meet up somewhere in Oregon. :-)

  4. Lisa says:

    How exciting!!!

    Change can be scary, but sometimes soooo needed!! As someone who packed up and left Toronto after 26 years living no where else…. The leap of faith and move to NJ was the best decision I ever made. I was DEFINITELY home sick…. A LOT …. In the beginning. No friends … No family. It was rough.

    Almost NINE years later I have a nice group of friends and we both of established ourselves in our careers.

    I credit you for taking the leap. It will be worth it. :-)

    And the US isn’t as bad as some Canadians make it out to be. You just have to avoid those crazy right wing people…lol!!! And just laugh laugh and laugh at FOX News Channel….for they live on another planet….just sayin’. 😛

    • Nadine says:

      I have to admit the no friends thing is scary. This will be my first time moving to a city where I literally won’t know anyone except The MoMs and The Bean. I did chat with several people this week, all of whom were very friendly. I’m hopeful that between grad school, fellow parents and community organizations I’ll be able to make a few new pals.

      Regardless, I suspect life in the US will have a lot to offer…including FOX News. Oh, Sean Hannity. Never, ever change.

  5. Lisa says:

    Oh …. And soooooooo bumming a guest bedroom!!!

  6. christo says:

    As a computer geek, I love that area because it’s right next to Silicon Valley, the home of Google and Apple. I had no trouble making friends there!