Every Friday I ask you a question of the week. You can answer often, occasionally or not at all. If you have something to say but you’re feeling shy, you’re always welcome to comment anonymously.

Before we get to this week’s question, I owe you peeps an apology. I’m sorry – I’ve been way lax on the blogging the past few days. I developed a nasty sinus infection and came down with the stomach flu at the same time. I’ve basically been a walking blob of ickyness this week and the Adorkable realm has been neglected as a result.

Happily my immune system seems to have regained the upper hand. I’m on the road to restored health and a return to blogging. Because of some new developments this new year, it won’t be possible for me to sustain my Monday through Friday schedule. But I will be posting at least three entries a week from here on in. So in the spirit of getting back into the swing of things, let’s get right to our question of the week!

How Do You Feel About Sex On Special Occasions?

Special occasion sex can be a total turn on for some people. It makes for an exciting day full of anticipation.  “Hells yeah! It’s my anniversary.  Imma eat some swanky food with a fancy sauce then get ma’ bounce on!”

I tend to have the opposite reaction. I didn’t have sex on my wedding night. I have a hard time getting it up on my birthday. Valentine’s Day is also the anniversary of when The MoMs and I started dating and frankly, I can’t take the pressure.

I dig booty but as soon as I feel like I should be having sex, all my systems shut down. Special occasion sex feels like the calendar bossing me around. Don’t tell me what to do, February 14th! I’ll get busy when I darn well want to!

Also? Romance does not turn me on in the slightest. I adore romantic gestures. I’m always jazzed when The MoMs and I share squishy times. It makes me crave hugs, cuddles, kisses and lots of physical intimacy…just not in a sexy way. Also? I hate having sex by candlelight. The flickering light bothers my eyes, plus I think about the fire hazard and it distracts me from my orgasm.

I know, publishers of women’s magazines. This trods all over the conventional perspective you have on lady-folk and what makes us horny. I’m not saying you’re wrong. I’m just saying this gal doesn’t get hot for hearts, flowers and special occasions.



  1. Amanda Earl says:

    i don’t believe in celebrating holidays dictated by convention in any way. sex happens when it happens in all its spontaneous & loving & lusty splendour. to me sex on special occasions smacks of obligation, just as buying gifts on v-day or xmas does. i agree with you about the so-called romanticism of these conventions too. ugh. hope you’re feeing better!

  2. Don says:

    Fav: “Imma eat some swanky food with a fancy sauce then get ma’ bounce on!”

    Dun like the calendar bossing me around either. But, it’s the rank commercialism surrounding certain holidays that keep me from being umm…bouncy.

    The special one day a year $50-100/bouquet of a dozen roses doesn’t help!

    Besides, been unimpressed by a lot of table d’hote menus on Valentine’s over the years. I know it’s a difficult day for front and back of house as it’s the second busiest service beside Mothers’ Day. And, restaurants need the revenue given how slow January usually is. My issue is that the regular menu usually makes a better meal.

    Glad you’ve fought off the bug!