I may not be the kinkiest gal around but I must confess that I do enjoy a little corporal play from time to to time.
Spanking is a practice that’s intrigued me for as long as I could remember. As a girl, I discovered victorian novels with their descriptions of characters forced to endure a good licking and they fascinated me. I’m a big fan of the ass in general. My desire for the occasional tanning just seems to be part of my sexual nature.
Erotic spanking is also known as corporal play, corporal punishment or spankophilia. It includes a spectrum of activities from a gentle hand-smack on the bum to intense punishment with a cane or flogger. It may be an sex-act unto itself or it can happen as part of role play, age play, domination and submission, bondage or other forms of kink.
I’m definitely not an expert when it comes to spanking; however I do have a few beginner tips to share with those of who are inspired by the idea of smackdown and are thinking of trying it out for the first time:
1. Use Your Words
Ideally, consent is always the precursor to trying something new with our sexual partners. Especially when that something new involves potential pain or punishment. Never haul off and slap an unsuspecting someone in the middle of sex! Sure, there’s a possibility you’re getting them off. But there’s also the possibility that you’re triggering bad memories, scaring them, confusing them, shocking them out of the moment or hurting them…in a bad way.
Also? It’s rude.
If spanking is something you’d like to try, talk to your partner first. Make sure you’re on the same page in terms of exactly what you’d like to try and how far you want to go. Air and address any concerns or fears you might have before dropping your drawers.
2. Do Your Research
Once you’ve opened the lines of communication, you may be drop your drawers and take your licks. Power to you! But if you’re still not sure exactly how you’d like to proceed, I recommend finding a few cheeky role models to emulate. There’s lots of book and film porn dedicated to corporal play. Investigate some steamy spanky scenes and see which scenarios inspire you. If you’re more empirically-minded books like The Compleat Spanker and Consensual Spanking provide a bevy of information and advice in a straight-forward, non-fiction format.
3. Try Before You Buy
Some people who are new to spanking are happy to keep things strictly hands on. But if you think you’d prefer to use a tool of the trade, know that not all implements are created equal. There are a host of options: canes, floggers, paddles, crops, whips, mitts, paddles and more. They’re available in every size, colour and shape imaginable. If you’re shopping for swat-gear and you’re not sure how intense a toy might be, try striking yourself on the inside of your lower arm. It will help you gauge the level of sensation you can expect on your bum.
Spanking can be an intense, exciting addition to your sexual repertoire. So if it’s something that’s got you curious chat with your partner. If they’re game why not give it try? You’ll be amazed how good it can feel to hit bottom!