I’ve raved about Sally McGraw before…and I’ll do it again, damnit! Sally’s philosophies about style and body image are eminently worthy of repeat praise. And thanks to social media Sally has become one of my new Internet pals!*
Sally’s blog, Already Pretty is a daily favourite of mine. When I learned she’d written a book of the same name, you best believe I got my order in right quick.
Sally’s philosophy is all about self-acceptance and celebrating the body you have exactly the way it is. Her book helps the reader identify and craft a style all their own. I’m not looking to do a complete wardrobe overhaul – though the book would be tremendously helpful if I were – but I do feel due for a style tune-up. I’m also in for some fun. The Already Pretty process means thinking about my clothes, writing about my clothes, talking photos of my clothes, dressing up and playing with my clothes! It may not sound like fun to some of you but for me that’s a balls-out barrel of monkeys!
The first phase of the process is about defining my current style. It involves activities such as assembling photos of recent outfits and pondering questions about which clothing brands I favour and what motivates me to shop.
I also had to come up with a list of at least ten words to describing my style. I went into this task all hubris-like. Hel-LO?! I’m a writer! Plus I own Schoolhouse Rock on DVD and I’ve seen the one about adjectives about a million times now. I was gonna rock this out!
Immediately I wrote “colourful”, followed by “feminine”. Next was…um….
Um….
The whole assignment ground to a near-halt as I tried to convince myself that “houndstoothy” IS TOO AN ADJECTIVE and that surely there’s a word describing “clothes that aren’t slacks”.**
Eventually, I found ten, non-made up adjectives…but it took some doing. The last word I came up with was unfocused. This exercise made me realize while I definitely know what I like, I don’t always understand the why. My style isn’t entirely cohesive, which is fine but I’m curious to see what common elements emerge as I continue Sally’s process.
All this pondering and adjectifying*** is being documented in my style journal/iPad. I got myself a simple notebook app and bam! I can type, handwrite, sketch and paste photos into one neat, tidy, paperless place. Plus it will be super easy to take with my when I go shopping.
And I will be shopping….
You can read Already Pretty, the blog, here.! You can buy Already Pretty, the book here!
*In real life friendship pending. Alls I need’s airfare to Minneapolis, yo!
** There may be but the word is definitely not “skirty”. I know because I looked it up.
*** Just let me have that one, okay?




.Nadine is a sexual health educator, a playwright, poet, burlesque performer, partner and parent living in Ottawa, Ontario. She enjoys candy, fashion and dreck television. She does not care for pants. Photo by Justin Van Leeuwen.
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I am totally on board with “houndstoothy” being a word.
Oh, friendship is in the bag, lady. No two ways about it.
Thank you for this shout-out, and for sharing a bit about the book’s process with your readers! I’m so grateful to have someone (besides me) unpacking the steps a bit. You’re a total star.