Cheers for Barack Obama, who finally went public with his support of same-sex marriage! In a television interview (some of which you can watch here), the POTUS explained:

“Malia and Sasha, they have friends whose parents are same-sex couple…There have been times where Michelle and I have been sitting around the dinner table and we’re talking about their friends and their parents and Malia and Sasha, it wouldn’t dawn on them that somehow their friends’ parents would be treated differently. It doesn’t make sense to them and frankly, that’s the kind of thing that prompts a change in perspective.”

Exactly Sasha and Malia! Way to remind your dad that we should treat all people as though they’re equal because, you know, all people are equal. Hmm…maybe the DOTUSes get the “Hooray!” on this one.

Now that Obama has said he supports marriage equality, I wonder what he’s going to do about it.


Jeers to North Carolina, the most recent state to enact a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage. Now, as my wise pal Chelsea correctly pointed out, Carolina the Upper had already banned gay marriage. But now it’s peeps have voted to change the state constitution’s definition of marriage as being between one man and one woman. Why? Voter Joe Easterling is quoted as saying

“Looking at nature itself, procreation is impossible without a man and a woman. And because of those things, I think it is important that the state of North Carolina’s laws are compatible with the laws of nature but, more importantly, with the laws of God.”

Presumably Easterling and those who share his rationale will also support constitutional ammendments that prevent the elderly, people with fertility issues and people aren’t trying to have babies from getting married.

Sadly, North used to be my favourite Carolina. The Andy Griffith Show rules all and the one time I was in Charlotte, I thought it was lovely. You had the top spot sewn up and in the BAG, NC and now you’ve blown it! Booooo!



  1. ainsley says:

    I would argue, from a place of deep familiarity with the state, that NC should still be your favorite Carolina.

    Yes, the vote is a vote to constitutionalize discrimination (which, yes, was already codified into law). It’s not unprecedented or unusual. Indeed, NC was the *last* Southern state to amend the Constitution this way.

    The political maneuvering behind this vote is so clever one almost has to appreciate it on that front. Many of the adverts were framed in such a way that it looked like a vote for the amendment was a vote to support gay marriage. The vote was part of a primary that was heavily contested on the Republican side, but very lightly on the Democratic side (in most of the state, at least). While I find the result of these machinations despicable, as someone who used to work in that field, the competence is striking.

    There are pockets of hate in NC. There are pockets of hate everywhere. But the NC of 2012 is not the NC I grew up in; it’s more diverse, it’s more open-minded and tolerant, it’s easier to avoid the hate because there is so much less of it proportionately. It was close, but NC voted for Obama in 2008.

    In the past, I wouldn’t have hesitated to classify NC as being in the US South, culturally. We still are, somewhat, but NC is quickly moving apart from the region and is more similar to VA and MD these days than it is SC and GA.

    You liked Charlotte; if I were going to show you around the state, it wouldn’t even be in the top 5 places to which I’d take you. Chapel Hill/Carrboro is my favorite place; it leaves me wordless when I try to describe how great those towns are. (They’re like conjoined twins, different but very similar.) Carrboro is an old mill town with its roots in Southern African-American culture, while Chapel Hill is its posher, more upscale neighbor and home to one of the best universities in the US. Durham also boasts one of the best universities in the US, and also takes great pride in its diversity and heritage (it remains heavily African-American). Asheville is a gorgeous, laid-back mountain town, with a thriving local art scene and vibrant culture. Black Mountain and Boone are even more so, from everything I’ve heard. Wilmington is a beach city, built around the port and the university, and is working to cultivate a culture like that of the other cities I’ve mentioned; it’s not there yet, IMO, but it says a lot that some of the best emerging bands in the state are coming from here. It’s where most of NC’s TV/film industry is based, and was home to both Dawson’s Creek and One Tree Hill.

    South Carolina has some great places, and it’s a lot smaller, so direct comparison is a little difficult. But most of the state, aside from a few places along the coast, is still very conservative and very rural. Its culture remains firmly Southern, which isn’t all bad but is far from all good.

    So, yes, a majority of *voters* did a bad, bad thing. I’m not certain I can say that the majority of citizens agree with the decision; one of the top conservative think tanks in the state even came out against the amendment. Don’t write us off as your favorite Carolina so quickly.

    (I say this to you because I trust in your open-mindedness, and because a lot of people have been writing off the state this week. Punish the voters and corporations who supported the amendment, by all means, just don’t paint the whole state with that brush.)

    • Nadine says:

      A well-made point and an important reminder, thank you! The amendment is a super-shitty, unjust development but it’s equally unjust to condemn an entire state based on the politics of a few bigots.