Loud and proud!

101 in 1001 goal number 93: March in a pride parade.

Working with Planned Parenthood has many perks, not the least of which is the opportunity to take part in the Ottawa’s Pride Parade.

The work I do isn’t always suitable for children, but the parade is something we can do as a family.  The Man of Mans, while unwavering in his support of sexual and gender diversity, has a passionate dislike of costume.  Even if his tidy polo and khaki shorts make him odd person out in the Pride processional, he sticks to his guns.

I on the other hand…

…will seize any opportunity to dress like an insane disco clown!

This is the first year that my son (henceforth known as The Green Bean) has asked what the parade is actually about. As the sex educator in the household, I’d like to tell you that I answered his question with smooth, socially sensitive aplomb.  But his question gave me pause.

I like to think of myself as an accepting, open-minded person. But I’m also a straight-identified, cis-gendered woman.  As much as I try to be a good ally, sometimes I fuck it up. But I don’t want to. And I really don’t want to fuck it up with my kid.  But sometimes, I do worry that I will inadvertantly imbue him with some deeply-entrenched bias of mine.

So while I was furrowing my brow about how to answer  The Bean’s question, The MoMs spoke up and said, “The parade is for people who think it’s okay for us to love anyone we want and be anyone we want.”

I may have the professional lens, but it’s The MoMs who sees it like it is.


  1. shelley t says:

    oh ned, i’m tearing up over here…

  2. Hazel Ramona says:

    I am confused by the grammar of this sentence. “it’s okay for us to love anyone they we and be anyone we want.”
    What did he mean?

    Also, you are adorkably cute. I’m excited to soon be in the same city as you (again).

    • nadinethornhill says:

      When I promise typos, I deliver! (I’ve made the appropriate corrections now).

      I can’t wait for you to come back. I’ll be there next Saturday morning to help you unpack.

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  4. Lynn says:

    Oh MAN, the Green Bean looks so adorable. I just love what the MoMs said. Perfect.

  5. Nat says:

    I wonder if we overthink our responses. The guys just answer the question…

    Love disco clown thing. You rock the short shorts…

    • nadinethornhill says:

      I pretty much vacillate between overthinking and underthinking every moment of my life. That’s why The Man of Mans is a nice balancing force in my life.